DON'T FIX IT
The first important rule of thumb, the first best advice for rescuing yourself from any mess, inside or outside, is this: Let’s not mess with fixing it!
The second rule of thumb is: Find a way to ground yourself with gravity, outside of the mess of your mind or the mess of your personal relationships, family and your stupid superficial lightweight corporate cop court crap culture that you have been brainwashed with.
The third rule of thumb is to learn to meditate, concentrate, demonstrate and sometimes eliminate.
Connect. The fourth rule of thumb is to connect with another being like yourself, with a mess of a mind like yourself, from a fucked up family and culture like yourself and start an honest conversation with them.
DON'T BE LIKE
Admit that you cannot find your ass with both hands. Say when you are more uncertain than certain. Say out loud that you don’t know the answers and half the time can’t come up with the questions and even then don’t know if they are the right ones.
FIND ONE MORE
Keep talking to people until you find other ones just as confused and just as honest as you are. Then, each of you find one more person like yourselves.
Spread the High Level Fun!
...we are somehow sure that this applies equally well to women.
Share if you are nervous, worried or scared of speaking or any other fears/worries you may have. Make yourself vulnerable to the other person.
Express your motivation for sharing. For example: “I don’t want to withhold this from you,” or, “I want to feel more connected to you and I don’t want this to be between us,” or, “Something in relating with you has been troubling me and I want us to talk about it.”
Admit that the conversation you want to have is not about arguing who is right and who is wrong. If you notice you are stuck in a debate about right vs. wrong, express that you want to have a different kind of conversation. Try to separate as much as possible your emotion from your story about that emotion.
Actively listen to the other person and remain present with them for as long as it takes for both of you to shift towards getting over your 'heavy' emotions (e.g. anger, sadness, fear, etc.). Remaining present with the other person—staying physically present with them, maintaining eye contact with them and being willing to hear what the other person wants to say—can be incredibly powerful in shifting the emotions from anger or sadness to understanding, love and appreciation.
Radical Honesty Experiments
If you throw yourself into doing the Experiments - and not just think about doing them - your life changes.
Nobody can Experiment for you.
More interestingly, nobody can stop you from Experimenting.
Become A Present-Tense Noticing Being - PART 1
Matrix Code RADHONES.01
Shift your self-experience from being a Person, a Woman, a Man, an LGBT, a Black, a Chinese, a Jew, a Moslem, a Christian, a Democrat, a Republican, a Victim, a CEO, a Plumber, a Wife, a Husband, a Dancer, a New Yorker, a Smoker, a Vegetarian, a Mother, a Father, an Apple Brand Fan, etc. etc. etc... to "I am a Being."
You don't have to know what a Being is. In fact, no one can know what a Being is because a Being is the mysterious interface between matter and consciousness at large.
Beings Are, and Beings Become.
The Box is Defensive. The Being is Expansive.
Beings can be a Space through which Bright Principles and your Archetypal Lineage can do their work in the world.
Before you can Experiment with being a Present-Tense Noticing Being it is first necessary to occupy yourself as a Being.
Read Brad Blanton's Radical Honesty Book
Matrix Code RADHONES.04
Read Brad Blanton's Radical Honesty book, word by word, cover to cover. Let it in. Think about it. Tehen start trying the experiments!